Gifted Clay:
Yes, I know you guys did not hear from me on yesterday for our special Friday conversation about LOVE. I had to kind of regroup from Thanksgiving. I had a wonderful Thanksgiving and I hope that you did too. I rested and had time to think about my life…and yours. I thought about the power of relationships. I thought about how EASY it is to overlook your blessings. We all have our preferences, opinions and desires. I certainly do. But as I have had time to evaluate life these past twelve months of personal solitude. I’ve thought about the things in life that really matter in a healthy relationship. I must say that I have not always thought soberly about what was important in a lasting relationship. I used to have this unrealistic picture of prince charming. I laugh at myself as I think about this. But what is interesting is that I firmly believe that you can be realistic And still expect the very best for—YOU!
There is a different BEST for all of us. We all have different views, different needs and a different destiny. We are all uniquely creted and designed. But what I have learned is that we must keep our eyes and ears open, and especially our hearts because you dont know where love will find you. And more importantly, you do not know the package that it may come wrapped in.
Lets talk about the packages that we sometimes overlook. No, I am not currently in a committed relationship, but because of my personal growth and progress…I feel that 2011 will be my year for that wonderful part of my life. So, everything that I am about to say to you is my own personal perspective and what I have come to learn. Okay, here we go…Your soulmate may be closer than you think. He or she may be a stranger you meet on your next trip, someone who sits beside you at the doctor’s office, a co-worker, a childhood friend, a neighbor, a church member, your favorite teller at the bank, your child’s teacher, the person who delivers your mail or even your closest friend. I used to say that I would never fall in love with a friend. But I had to destroy that “never” list and I have since opned my heart to “possibilities”. I do not know who, what, when or where but what I DO know is that my heart and mind are open to so many new possibilities of how he and I will be brought together. I just know that I still get “good gossebumps” when I think of that.
I have also come to realize that there are NO perfect people. Why? Wake up, you and I ARE NOT PERFECT OURSELVES! I do not have kids but it is likely that my soul mate will have kids so I will have to make room for that adjustment. I don’t have beautiful feet (which many women will not admit) so he will have to deal with that from me (lol). No, my feet are not little monsters but they are not little beauties either. I am a very unique female and my perspectives on life are quite interesting. I need a man who can understand that. Many of my views are conservative and some are all out the box (lol). I understand that a man my age (I’m 40) and older may be more of a home-body than I am. I still lilke a rather fast paced life and a fun-filled evening. Again, adjustments. I rise early and stay up late (not always because I want to) and he may be different. I do not come from a close-knit family. My mom and I are EXTREMELY close but that’s about the extent of the closeness of my (biological) family. He may have a strong family background and find my lack of a big family to be an adjustment on his radar. But for someone like myself with little biological family, I have always had this HUGE desire to be a part of a huge family. Amazing.
The list of ways that we can block our blessings can go on endlessly. Both men and women do it. My point is to encourage each reader NOT TO OVERLOOK THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE BASED on wealth, height, race, proximity, friendship, age, body-type and all of the other things that may not matter when it comes to LIFE-LONG LOVE. So, think about your list of qualifications (most of us have them) and think about the things you have listed that just may block you from recognizing your soul-mate. Adjust your list in order to enjoy your life—with that person who God intended for you to love with, live your life with and bless the world with. Thus don’t block the blessing of your soul mate.
Manifested Blessings in 2010,
Melody Sherra
